Showing posts with label Writing as you Age. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Writing as you Age. Show all posts

Thursday, September 10, 2015

ARGUING WITH MYSELF

or Do All Writers Have Split Personalities

by Jackie King
 
Jackie King
In Julia Cameron’s book AN ARTIST’S WAY, she speaks of feeding your inner child. My problem is, I’m so busy taking care of my old-girl self, that there’s little time left for outings with some brat that lurks in my psyche. However, some time in the past I had to return a purchase to the mall. I walked from the sizzling Tulsa  heat into life reviving air conditioning and decided that both me and my inner-child could something new. I had just picked up a shirt when this inner-brat whined,

“Why don’t you get something different? I’m sick of beige.”

What? Inner Brat didn’t like beige?

Somewhat unnerved, I put back the Tee and wandered on through the store. Maybe Inner-Child would prefer a nice navy blue? I strolled from sportswear into blouses and stepped within arm’s length of a dressy print top in shades of orange, yellow and brown. The effect was a bit like viewing an abstract painting and I paused a minute.

That one, Brat said.

My civilized (beleaguered?) self, smiled and spoke in a (silent) faux-calm voice said, “Okay, we’ll try it on, but will make us look like a buffalo.” (Brat isn’t the only alter ego who can be snippy.) I looped the blouse over my arm and moved on. Four racks over I spotted a splashy flowered print. I reacted with one word: “Yuck.”

“Try on that one, too,” Brat said.

I thought my child rearing days were over!

Grown-up-lady rolled her eyes. If anything would make us look ridiculous (an important fear to me, but Brat didn’t seem to care) this garment would. But the jacket was unlined, cotton and sported three-quarter sleeves. Very comfortable for summer, and we mature ladies love our comfort. What the heck, might as well try that one on too.

The two of us, brat and woman-of-a-certain age, (not sure who was leading whom), found a dressing room and tried on both items. SHOCKEROO: My older self decided to buy both! Grown up self loved the blouse; Brat insisted on the blazing blazer.

Feeling more than a little daring, I headed toward hats. I was getting into this. If child and grownup joined forces, what might happen next?

The above anecdote happened four summers earlier, and I’m growing more eccentric with each passing year. When I went to church yesterday, I wore what are called Pajama-Jeans (Purple ones) with a T-shirt  that read, “OLD IS COOL.” 
 
Two avid readers who agree that OLD IS COOL!
So my message to Julia Cameron is that my inner-child isn't just alive and well, she is thriving and corrupting senior readers along the way. Above I'm with Mary Ruth Whitman and Richard Baden. We are wearing different colored fedoras with twinkling lights.

Like my own children years earlier, my inner child has taken over my life.

Book 1 - Grace Cassidy Series

Thursday, April 9, 2015

Aging in Place--Perfect for This Writer

by Jackie King

A couple of years ago, I decided to sell my 4-bedroom house and get myself settled into a cozy writing nest where I could age in place. The plan was that I would have nothing to worry about except writing, which I love. (Well, love/hate, but that’s a different essay.)

The first step was to find the right nesting place. After visiting several different facilities, I chose Woodland Terrace, in Tulsa, Oklahoma. Tulsa has been my home since I was in my twenties.

I looked at a number of different apartments and floor plans. Nothing in my price range seemed just right. However, the last place I perused seemed to reach out and wrap invisible arms around me. This pad was on the third floor, close to the exercise room, and best of all, the large window looked out into the tops of gorgeous oak trees. It was May, and  I looked into a green wonderland filled with squirrels and birds. I was in love.
 
Looking outside my window in early Autumn
Just gazing into the lush growth of green leaves, transports me to to a lakeside in the country. I have taken pictures of my trees in every season and I love each change.

Downsizing and moving was a nightmare, which I would have never survived if not for my youngest daughter, Jennifer and my BFF, Judy Rosser. But with the help of those close to me, I made the change successfully and now spin my stories glancing out the window from time to time for inspiration.

Birds nest just outside my window and squirrels romp, leaping from branch to branch.

When I grow tired at my computer, I walk a few steps to my bedroom and lie down for a while. There I rethink my plot and characterization.


I love my life, and I love my new pad!